Are you in LOVE or LUST?

LOL! I can't believe that I'm writing this but I was looking through some other blog and I came across this blogger, Shayla (I don't know what's her real name) and she uses her blog to solve relationship problems of others. This is her blog http://www.dearshayla.blogspot.com. Well, nothing special about it but there are some quotes that she made are agreeable and I found one this topic about "Love at first sight". This is not what I want to talk about..it's the image below of this post that caught my eyes. It's "Love Verses Lust". =)

How can you tell you are in love or you are in lust? =D It's never easy to answer this question, because I believe most of the time you yourself also not sure about it. What's LOVE? What's LUST? Hmmm...Confused? Let me give you a situation! XD


You first meet, and the sparks fly so high that you’re pretty sure you may have caught a couple clouds on fire and you cant go even a minute without thinking of them. Next, you go on checking your phone for missed calls or even messages! Then, you start fantasizing about the next time you will have with that person (That's what you call DATE!) Final stage..SEX! That's the moment you think you are having a great sex because at that moment all you want is that person and no one else! (That's when you claim you are sooooo in LOVE with him/her!)  You just cant seem to get enough of them, and you are pretty sure you never felt this way about anyone, and even though it has only been a couple of weeks or even days, you just cant imagine yourself being with anyone else. So? LOVE or LUST? =D


Me? First impression.."Yeah right!!" (sarcastically) I bet the above situation happens few months once? LOL! And forget the guy you met two months ago which you also claimed you are deeply “fell in love with” at first sight and just knew he was the one back then. This is so LUST!! Get what I mean? Oh ya..PLEASE do not fall for the I love you that comes directly before or after sex. XD


Lust is clearly not love. For sure, attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust. When you are in love it is as if you have your best most trusted friend at your side and you feel physically attracted to them. It is the best of both worlds! Love is not about jealousy. It is not about conflict. It is not about testing. Love is a positive feeling. If it is tainted by mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or spitefulness it is not really love but lust. Love is like you surrender your heart to another person by knowing they will treat it better than you will. Love should feel GOOD!! 


See the difference? Spot it? I bet right now you are thinking deeply about your relationship. Right?  Give it a second thought!! Is it LOVE or LUST? And do tell me about it! LOL~ *happy thinking* =D

"Distance"

I was going through some articles while surfing the net and I found this. Well, not that interesting but at some point I do agree with the explanation given. Have you ever wonder why people shouts at you when they are angry? Why can't they talk politely although they are angry? Don't they think by shouting will make the situation worse? And thus, this is the explanation I found. This is how the story begin...

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‘Why do we shout in anger?’ A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’

His disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’

‘But, why do you shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint. Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small!’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.

‘MORAL’ said the saint: ‘When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return!’

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I don't know what you all think about this but I definitely agree with the part that when two people fall in love, their distance could be very close until a point where they just need to look at each other eyes and within that few milliseconds they already know what's in each other mind. And this is why I guess sometimes LOVE need not to explain..LOVE need no reason and LOVE just need to be feel..

p/s : I'm writing this little note to someone. She should know who she is. Sometimes LOVE just don't need to be planned. You can't plan your feelings..it just happens..Don't worry about people around you. They have no right for what you feel. Nothing's wrong if you go oppose them, you are just choosing what your heart wants..and not what they want..Right? Care less about their views..they do not know what you need. As the story above..just try to feel which heart is closer to you, and he's the right one! Love you always! *muacks*

♥ Be My Valentine

- Happy Valentine's Day -

How many of you know the real meaning of Valentine's Day? Don't ask me..I myself don't know about it too. But if you ask me, I will say it's just another day in the week which I need work! XD What I can understand is Valentine's Day is actually a day to express your love to the loved ones. But I see most people or I should say "couples" will only celebrate this special day. How about the others? You don't have a partner and does it mean that you don't have any loved ones? Get-What-I-Mean? You've got your friends..your family or whoever you know..they deserve your love too..right? So since tomorrow is the special day, express freely to anyone around you by saying "I LOVE YOU" to them. You will make their day! Or I should say..You will make my day? LOL! =D Here's a song I would love to share..It's about Valentine! -I LOVE YOU! -

p/s : "Happy Valentine's Day" to you!.. =) ♥

Love, it's a special day

We should celebrate and appreciate

That you and me found something pretty neat

And I know some say this day is arbitrary

But it's a good excuse, put our love to use

Baby, I know what to do

Baby, I...

I will love you

I'll love you, I'll love you

Love, I don't need those things

I don't need no ring

I don't need anything

But you with me

'Cause in your company

I feel happy, oh so happy and complete

And it's a good excuse, put our love to use

Baby, I know what to do

Baby, I...

I will love you

I'll love you, I'll love you

Yeah, it's a good excuse, put our love to use

Baby, I know what to do

Baby, I...

I will love you

I'll love you, I'll love you

So won't you be my honey bee?

Giving me kisses all the time

Be mine, be my Valentine

So won't you be my honey bee?

Giving sweet kisses all the time

Be mine, be my Valentine

Oh, be my Valentine

Beautiful Nights ♥

Here comes the night,

The moment that I've been waiting for,

The moment when the silence appear,

The moment when the mind is clear.

The day is gone,

And the moon starts to shine,

Staring in the dark bejeweled sky,

As time passes by.

Sitting in this calm cold night,

With no sounds around and no one to be found,

The world seems to belongs to you,

With no worries and nothing to be frown.

The night approaches,

And the earth rotates silently,

This is when everything comes lively,

And I could see all clearly.

The starry night is what I've been waiting,

Where I can shield my secrets in between,

Tenderness reflects and truth is unveil,

Here comes the real world, it reveals.

I'm standing here in the middle of the night,

Looking upon this beautiful sky,

With the winds blow against me,

Feeling like I'm flying without wings.

And soon it is getting late,

Sleep comes to get me away,

I smile at this peaceful atmosphere,

I just cant wait for the next night to appear.

Great Philosophy!

A short write out on a story that my aunt told me during reunion dinner yesterday. It's about the different of heaven and hell which I found it simple yet meaningful.

All these while, God has been fair enough to prepare the same amount of foods for everyone in Heaven and in Hell. Everyone is given a six foot long chopsticks to enjoy the foods there.  But why do the people in Hell are crying that they do not have foods to eat? And yet they are given the same foods as in Heaven. And so a man has been send out to find out why. This man visits the Hell first and next the Heaven. 

People in Hell are still starving although they are given food is because of the six foot long chopstick which they could not reach to feed themselves with such long chopstick. But the people in Heaven are given the same long chopstick just like in Hell, but how come they are not starving? How do they feed themselves? And so this man visits the Heaven. Once he reached the Heaven, he smiles. He's impressed with the situation he saw in Heaven. So, guess how the people in Heaven feed themselves?

The reason behind why the people in Heaven can eat happily without facing the problem with that chopstick is they tend to feed each other rather than feeding their own self. While the people in Hell are too selfish and they only think of feeding themselves rather than sharing with their people. And so this is what makes the different between Heaven and Hell.

Well, this story might be not meaningful to you all but this is a good example to us. Most people suffered due to their own selfishness. There are times problem can be solves easily but just because of their egoistic , they would rather keep everything to themselves. Sometimes things depends on how you look on it. If that thing can bring benefits to both parties, why not give a try? Why people only tend to think they want to grab all the benefits for themselves only? Why is it so hard to share? Anyway, this is what I want to share with you all today. Like what I always say, the choice is yours! It all depends on how you think!

Anyway, it's Chinese New Year! I would like to wish everyone Happy Bunny New Year and had a great and prosperous year ahead!! -Hugs and Loves- ♥